Well… for a while, we felt in our hearts that we needed to somewhat help couples who are planning their wedding. So we thought about this noble idea where we will be asking couples, who we were privileged to shoot their wedding, about their experience during the planning process & what they learnt out of it.
1st on the blog, is Pearl & Vic, who we really loved shooting their traditional wedding ceremony which you can check out here & also their beautiful white wedding here. I really loved their answers & without much ado here is what they had to say…
1. What gave you the most stress during the planning process & what would you advice soon-to-be couples?
The guest list was our number 1 headache. We both wanted a very small intimate wedding, and having big families and friends didn’t make this an easy task. While it was impossible to invite everyone, we eventually compromised on an acceptable number. Our best advice to couples getting married is, share your vision with your parents, and consider their opinion. This will mean a lot of back and forth, but at the end of the day, remember, it is YOUR wedding, so stand firm on your vision and how many numbers you both can accommodate/afford, the rest will fall into place.
2. Where/How did you source for your preferred suppliers/vendors?
Finding our suppliers was easy. We both knew what we wanted from the get go- an indoor evening reception- and when we spotted Crowne Plaza on a night out after we got engaged, that was it! Having a “one stop shop” made planning stress-free as the hotel provided majority of the things that we would have otherwise outsourced for. The rest of our suppliers (photography/videography, sound and decor) we found through friends and referrals.
3. What do you wish you would have spent more & less money/time on, now that the wedding has passed?
On hindsight, we realise that you cannot please everyone, so we wish we had spent less time worrying about our guest list. As long as you have your close family and friends present, you shouldn’t worry about inviting the whole world. 🙂
4. How did you deal with parents/relative/societal pressure during the planning process?
Communication! Communication! Communication! Sit down with your parents early in the wedding planning process. Talk to them generally about your initial ideas including when/where/style and incorporate their ideas with regards to any traditional functions that must be done before the wedding. Then try to avoid the pitfalls.
5. Looking back now, what did you enjoy most about the wedding planning process?
We thoroughly enjoyed working together and sharing ideas. It was such a fun beautiful journey, and we thank God each day
6. How early did you start your planning & what is your advice to soon-to-be-couples?
We started planning soon as we got engaged. We got engaged in April 2012, and got married April 2013…so we gave ourselves 12 months. Planning takes time, so our advice would be to give yourselves enough time to plan your wedding. This means create your wedding budget early enough and work towards reaching your goal, identify your service providers, and if satisfied with their work, book them early, create a “to do” list to keep you on target and completely prepared.
7. Any horror stories during the planning process, what should they avoid?
Our personal horror story was when my wife fell ill and needed surgery a month and half to the wedding. This drained us emotionally and financially as a family as we all had to focus our time,energy and resources on her. Planning took a back seat during this time and we weren’t sure the wedding would take place as planned. Life is very precious, so even though wedding planning is stressful and tends to consume your every thought, purpose to enjoy every minute of it and don’t sweat the small stuff!
8. Looking back at your planning process & wedding day, what would you have done different?
Nothing! It happened just as it was written to happen, it came and went by so fast and we have our precious memories to keep!
9. After the wedding/honeymoon how has life changed for both of you?
We are the best of friends and we look out for each other. The wedding and honeymoon were magical but we do not think that life has changed that much other than the fact that we both share each others’ space. We are still the same young couple trying to live life, have fun and be happy 🙂
10. Any other advice you would have for soon-to-be couples as they plan & await their wedding?
Don’t lose sight of your vision for your wedding. Try to let your parents feel involved by giving them tasks to help you with- including areas you are willing to give up creative control. Last but certainly not least…PRAY! God is all in all, so many things can go wrong while planning a wedding, commit everything to Him in prayer and watch his grace sustain you in your journey!
Hope you loved the post, we would love to know what you think of it…
Again thank you Pearl & Vic for being such sweethearts & sharing your story with us…God bless!