Every notable achievement or accomplishment in my life, I attribute to an answer to prayer. I have been very fortunate in my brief life, and It would be silly to say that it’s good luck, the secret I will share in this post. From very early on in my life, I have been surrounded by very strong women, my mother, grandmothers, aunties and later on my wife and the amazing women around her. All this women have been a source of power because they loved to pray and that power is a wonder-working power!
So, what happens when women pray? I will attempt to answer in this post the mystery behind this phenomenon. Throughout the life of Jesus, he was surrounded by many women. And these women loved Jesus and Jesus always had a soft spot for them. So, because of the devotion women have, every-time they kneel to pray, heaven moves and power flows.
The Husband who wanted a Divorce
I once read a true story of a lady who discovered that her & her husband were drifting apart. They had had a happy marriage, but because of the hustle & bustle of daily life their once fiery romance, had gone cold. To further her dismay, she found out that her husband had developed an unhealthy interest in another woman, and she lost it. She rushed to her minister, who gave her a simple formula of daily prayer (Prayerise, Visualise & Actualise) which I will share later on in this post. That evening over dinner, her husband mentioned nonchalantly that he wanted a divorce!!!!!
She simply replied that she was willing of the divorce if he wanted it, but suggested a deferral of the decision for 90 days. After which she would grant him the divorce. The husband was surprised by her reply, but okayed it. Night after night, the husband went out, but the wife constantly prayed and pictured him seated in his old chair, reading as in the old days. She visualised him happily drying the dishes by her side, taking hikes together and playing golf together as they once did. She maintained this picture by faith, and one night he actually sat there in his old chair. She had to look twice to make sure that it was reality, not her mind playing tricks on her.
Days went by and he began to read again to her and spend more & more nights at home. One sunny afternoon he asked, “what do you say to a round of golf?” One day she realised that the 90th day had arrived, so that evening she said quietly, “hunny, this is the 90th day.” “What do you mean,” he asked puzzled. “Don’t you remember?” she whispered, “We had agreed to wait 90 days to settle our divorce, this is the day”. He looked at her behind his newspaper and said “Don’t be silly. I couldn’t possibly live without you. Where did you get this idea that I was going to leave you?” – Norman Vincent Peale
The Power of the Tongue
I believe most of you have heard this bible verse repeated time and again by our mothers
I had heard this verse multiple times growing up, though I never perceived of its meaning. Until I realised that the stones the woman uses to build her home, are the words she speaks. Incidentally, the words spoken by a woman become a self fulfilling prophecy, whether she knows it or not.
Many, if not most married women, will be caught complaining about their husbands, about what they do or do not do. Walk into any chama or social gathering of hitched women and you will definitely get an earful of complaints. One night, as I was thinking about this, I got this inspiration.
At the time of one’s marriage, every woman (equally) gets a virgin plot of land in form of a husband. Slowly, through her prayers, & words of her mouth, she begins to cultivate this land.
There is a woman who constantly speaks negative things about her husband (Which are all true). This woman is like a farmer sowing weeds and watering them with acid. (Scary right?) Then she get’s surprised that her plot of land is dying looking more like a grave yard. The power of the Self fulfilling prophecy.
Then there is the wise woman, who speaks positive things over her husband (In spite of his faults), prays over him and believes in him. She is like a farmer who carefully tills her land, selects the best seeds, waters it with tender care and practises weed control. At the end of the day, even though both women married extremely flawed husbands, the outcome is very different.
In 2015, a great movie premiered that told an amazing truth, about the power of prayer.
I highly recommend that every woman watch this movie at least every quarter. Reminding yourself of this principle. So, how can one learn to pray, and tap this reservoir of unlimited power?
This bible verse is the guiding principle for prayer
Highlight this verse and repeat this verse at least 3 times every day till its etched in your conscious brain
3 Steps to Prayer
Petition God on behalf of your husband. Pray for protection, for favour, for strength to fight temptation. For success in the market place. Simply just ask God. This is the 1st step. When was the last time you actually prayed over your husband, children & family? We have not because we ask not
Before you actually receive what you have prayed for, you have to believe that you have already received it. This is the tricky part. So how do you believe before you receive? Remember the example of the woman whose husband wanted to divorce her? Believing is a role primarily done by our subconscious mind. The way to trick our mind to believe is to hold the picture of the answered prayer in your mind with faith. And most importantly not only to picturize it, but the feel the associated emotion of the realised prayer. Emotion is what accelerates the process of belief.
So, if you are praying for your husband to care and love you more, picturize him being present and doing all those things you enjoy doing together. Hold this picture in faith, until it comes to pass. I will write more about the power of visualisation in future posts and how the most successful entrepreneurs, athletes & professionals use it everyday to achieve their dreams, goals & visions.
This is the final process of prayer, i.e. getting the answer to your petition. This is the well manicured garden that you have been working so hard to cultivate. I truly believe that good men are not born but made. And the best way to get the life/marriage/relationship that you want is through prayer. The best way to fight is not to fret, argue or nag. Fight it on your knees. There is immense power when a woman prays. (Stop & reread Prov 14:1)
Prayers to Pray Over Your Husband
This year I challenged my Gathoni to take (with renewed vigour) her position of prayer. I know what power she wields when she prays. And I do need that power so as to get favor in the market place and succeed in my role as husband & father. The best way to pray over your husband is to claim the promises in the bible…I discovered a list of prayers listed in a document that you can print and use it everyday.
I urge you, to print this document or write down these declarations and claim them at least twice every day. And as you repeat them begin to visualize them as coming true until they are hard wired into that sub conscious part of your brain. And watch as your lives began to get transformed.
Download the document here.
Never ever forget this…there is power when a woman prays
Please note that none of this ideas are original to me. I have learned them through reading of the bible and these awesome books. If you want to read more on this topic see the below books
- The Power of Positive Thinking – Dr. Norman Vincent Peale
- The Power of a Praying Wife – Stormie Omartian
God willing I will read more & write next on secret power when men pray.